A painful experience for girls.

This is a message given to me by friends, I hope he can help his students make, the question I have thought about for a long time, but there is no satisfactory answer. Hope that friends can help him. The following is a message he has given me the original:

"Yunjie Hello!! I have a thing to please help me address the students, things like this: I have a very polite female students, look pretty good, a lot of boys to pursue her. She may have never been in love Now there are 000 boys to pursue her for two years, the girls finally agreed to his pursuit. They get along with more than a year, love each other very much, they never took place sex. Now the boy started asked her to marry him. He also loved girls, unfortunately, the only girl is no longer a virgin. Unfortunately, because as a child, she was not very intelligent, she and her Qinge share her bed ......"

"Such things happen in this girl, 20 years ago thought it would face wash to tears ...... she is not pain her family, she and I said this was only her and his Brother to know that she and her family did not dare say. She said: To be frank, if out, will only live their own. Yunjie, what should I teach you how to help her deal with you? She and her boyfriend do not want to She said that in the past? She like her boyfriend is gentle and pure ...... matter how she wants to speak?? Later to how the face of her brother? Not be able to hide in the past? In order to do this, she Would like to commit suicide several times ...... I really do not know to how to help her, you help me solve please? Thank you, very grateful! I wish you always beautiful and happy! "

He read the message to me, a good sense of a heavy heart, her story is really a matter of feel embarrassed and helpless. Resentment and sad! This is my brother do not have to bear the responsibility for that? He committed an error by his sister a person to bear, it seems a little less fair. After all, but that is a thing of the past, after all, she was small and not sensible. In fact, she is also very Burongyia! During the past 20 years she was in pain struggling to survive. During this period, how much courage and Tears and to support ah!

I think: She and her boyfriend should call a spade a spade, if her boyfriend can not accept this fact, then, the boy she is not worthy of love. If the girls did not dare to face, even if he is married, also lived a life of fear, you do not even tired? And how long she can insist on it? If she's honest to him, perhaps on her own is a kind of release, a kind of relief. She can unload pressure in the bottom of my heart all these years. Then again, if we say that out, the boy can not accept her? However, there can be any good solutions? Because this matter involves the ethical and moral issues. Therefore, more complicated and difficult. I feel very helpless confusion, I do not know how to help her case. All requests for advice or help her out and try to come up with better proposals.